“R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me.” Oh baby, yeah. This article reminds me of that song. It’s an oldie but still a goodie.
Anywho, have you been flirting with others or a particular person you might fancy? Is your partner not cool with that? Then it’s likely more about it being disrespectful, and not because they are insecure or jealous. This is especially true if you guys are supposed to be monogamous. You know, neither one of you is supposed to be sleeping with anyone else.
See, if you seriously want to sustain a healthy strictly monogamous relationship, (just you and your partner, no side dudes, side chicks, sanchos, sanchos, beans or rice.) then I strongly suggest you and your partner both refrain from flirting.
This is because when you flirt with someone, what you are doing is you are essentially inviting that person to flirt back. Why? Because the other person would almost certainly see your flirting as a message that you are romantically interested and available.
You’re opening the door, and saying, “Hey cutie, come hit on me.” And that’s never a good thing in a monogamous relationship. Because many times, flirting leads to secret conversations. Secret conversations lead to meeting up. Meeting up leads to a bit of touching. And then from there, you know where it eventually leads.
Flirting is also one reason why many people in relationships worry when their partner goes out to a nightclub or bar. They don’t necessary worry about what their partner might do, they worry about what others might try to do with their partner. And this is natural. It’s human nature. People in monogamous relationships do not like the idea of others hitting on their partner.
Now, again some people might say that a person who doesn’t like their partner flirting does so because they are insecure. Uhhh, no. It has nothing to do with insecurity and everything to do with respect.
A person in a monogamous relationship who engages in this type of behavior has no respect for the relationship, none, particularly if they wouldn’t be willing to do it in front of their partner.
The same applies to frequently commenting, liking, and complimenting the photos of another person who doesn't contribute to your life in any meaningful way. This is especially true if you don’t do nearly the same for your partner.
I believe people who do this would almost certainly have sex with that person if given the opportunity. They want to grab that person’s attention, because they consciously or subconsciously believe it could someday lead to something more. Yep, it’s true.
If you’re not happy with your partner, talk to them. Sit down with them and try to fix it. If you’re still not happy after trying to fix it, then leave. Don’t go out and try to get some side action. Because that's shitty thing to do.