"I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He treats me great. Never given me a reason to not trust him. We have even talked about having kids together soon. The problem is that he refuses to ever get married. Now, every time I bring up the topic of marriage, he changes it. He doesn't want to talk about it.
Since I was little, that has always been one of my dreams, to be the wife to the person I love. He says it's just a piece of paper and that it's unnecessary. That it's also a waste of money.
I don't understand the real reason he doesn't want to. It makes no sense. Other than that, our relationship is great. I don't want to lose him but I also want to be his wife, not just his girlfriend. Is there something I can do that can help to convince him?"
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Kayla Compo Marriage is a lot more than a peice of paper. It makes you next of kin, health care proxy, all of it. But in the sense if hes going to be loyal and honest than yes it's a peice of paper and it wont change anything but you dont seem to have that worry. Some people dont want to get married. You have to decide if marriage is what you truly want or if the life after marriage is.
Stephanie Smith If he refuses to talk about marriage, then there definitely should not be a conversation about having kids.
Faith Noble You need to find someone that wants marriage as much as you do. Marriage is NOT a piece of paper,the license is! It is not alot of money to get married. You can get married at the courthouse.
Kay Nicole Varner Some people do not believe in marriage. It sounds like he is one of them. Perhaps because he hasn’t been exposed to a successful or happy one. I commend him for being upfront and honest in his stance. Just as I applaud you. However knowing how he feels the question is, are you willing to accept he may never change his mind
Sonja Christine You can’t. You either accept that or leave and find someone who wants to get married as much as you do. No matter how much you love them but sometimes you’d have to love them from a distance.
Missy Gross He gave you the real reason. He doesn't see the point in it. There's nothing you can do to change his mind. You two view marriage differently. Either you accept that he doesn't want to get married and stay with him or you leave him to find a man who shares your views on marriage.
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