Updated: Apr 12
"I have a boyfriend who tells me he loves me ten times a day, sometimes in his sleep. But then other times he’s verbally abusive, calls me horrible names and screams at me. Just recently, I asked him to do me a favor and stop at the store in his travels for something important and he said no problem. At the end of the day I asked if he did via text and he texted back no and he can’t. So I got upset because it was something that had to be done and I was busy with appointments.
Because I got upset that he didn’t have the decency to let me know earlier he wouldn’t be able to do what he said he would do, he called me a bunch of names and told me he’s done with me and screamed at me like I’ve never imagined he would do. I left the room, went back an hour later to go to sleep and he said it’s my fault and I’m so mean to him. This is not the first time this has happened. He’s also given me the silent treatment over ridiculous things as well. Sounds like a narcissist, right? This is never going to change is it? When things are good they are really good but when things inconvenience him or he hasn’t eaten (and this is s huge problem) it’s worse than just a little bad. Anyone deal with this type of thing?"
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Jessica Morgan A narcissist at its best. I’m a narcissistic abuse survivor. It will never get better. It will get worst once you leave but with a little educating on narcissistic behavior and how to escape it will be well worth it. They live off of your reaction. If you give no reaction they will get bored and go somewhere else for their narcissistic supply. Run girl!
Rebecca Tangsrud Do you like being treated this way? If not, remove yourself from the situation. Men don’t change unless they want to change. Actions always speak louder than words. When someone shows you that you aren’t important to them, believe them.
Lynn Ellen This is called gaslighting. Narcissist 101. Please leave him. He will blame you for everything for the rest of your lives together. Took me 20 years to leave. Don’t waste your life.
Kristi Burns Dealt with that plus some for 7 years . Narc at it's finest . If he didn't get his way he threw a tantrum like a 2 yr old, he never gave anything it was all about taking, the world revolves around him & the list goes on . He got into a wreck & was in the hospital & rehab for 2 1/2 months I stayed there with him so he would get the care he needed . I literally wiped his ass . YET, when I was hospitalized for 5 days with surgery following he NEVER went to the hospital to see me or was there when I had my surgery . He would call or text . The few times he was there for me was because he wanted something in return . And yea he told me all the time that he loved me BUT his actions spoke otherwise . Wish I had gotten out sooner but he had me so manipulated & in so deep I just couldn't get out . Thankfully I hit bottom & as of almost 4 months he is gone & my life is better already . Get out NOW ..
Dani Louise Hurst This is called gaslighting my ex was exactly the same, the best thing you can do is release yourself immediately otherwise it's going to get much worse.
Jennifer Windsor I've dealt with this for a yr. Never have before still trying to leave. Was stupid enough to move In before I realised how bad it was. Lease is up and cant wait until I can get away and heal. I'm dead inside. He will not stop trying to say what he thinks I want to here so I wont leave and I try to play nice cause if I dont he is vengeful and hurtful. Run!!!!
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