Updated: Apr 13
You’re the initiator.
Are you usually the “initiator?” You know, the person who is almost always the first one to call, the first one to text. Unless you’re some crazy, obsessed dude texting and calling her every 10 minutes, if you’re usually the initiator, then this is a clear red flag that she’s not really into you.
When a girl is interested in you, if you’re not talking to her on the phone or seeing her often, she will text with you at least sporadically – a few times a day – even if she’s not a fan of texting.
A good indicator that she's interested is when you're getting simple random texts from her, not just texts when there's something to talk about. From "How are you doing today?" to "Weather is nice today." Or even texts that contain only an emoji. You know what I'm talking about. These texts are not great simply because of their content, they are great because they communicate, "I'm thinking about you."
If she were really interested in you, she would be curious about your life and what you are doing. It wouldn’t be one-sided, obviously. Not reaching out to you or often ignoring your texts is her way of saying you’re not a priority to her.
Since you aren’t a priority to her, she will often forget to respond and likely finds it boring to respond to you. She’s not thrilled about seeing your calls or text, so when she does respond, it is likely because she has nothing else better to do. You could fall off the face of the Earth and she probably wouldn’t care what happened to you until your picture showed up on the news.
She Doesn’t Care What She Looks Like in Front of You
She doesn’t’ take the time to get dressed up or even put on makeup when she sees you. Women who want to make a good impression on someone take the time to dress up and put on makeup. Not doing so, not giving a damn, is a simple way of her saying, “I don’t really care whether you like how I look since nothing is ever gonna to happen between us.”
She Flakes on Plans
If she often cancels plans on you with poor excuses, it is because something better came up. Hell, if she finds you very boring, staying home and watching Netflix sounds better to her.
A good indicator that she’s not interested in anything with you is when you get the “I’m bored” text. When she wants to plan something last minute just because she doesn’t feel like being home alone and wants some attention.
She Lies About What She Did or Has Vague Answers
If you ask her what she did this past weekend, she says something like, “Oh, just chilled,” or, “Went out for a bit, kinda boring.” yet if you look at her Instagram or Facebook, it tells a completely different story.
She tells you this because she doesn’t want to bother explaining to you what she did, especially because she knows it's going to lead to more questions. She sees no point in it because she sees you as insignificant. “I’m too lazy to tell him everything that went on.”