What To Tell Someone Going Through A Hard Time
When someone close to us is going through a difficult time in their life, we always want to say something that would make them feel better. We want to comfort them. We want to ease their pain.
So oftentimes we say something along the lines of, “It’s going to be okay. Things will get better.” And sadly, many times despite our good intentions, this is one of the worst things we can say to them. This is because for many who are in pain emotionally, especially those suffering from depression or anxiety, they don’t feel like things are ever going to get better. In their head, they’re probably thinking, “It’s easy for you to say because you’re not going through it. You’re not in my situation. You don’t understand. You will never understand.” They are suffering and that’s really all they are thinking about.
So, what is something you can say that may actually help them? What is something helpful you can say to someone who is going through a difficult time, someone who just lost a loved one, someone who is going through a painful breakup, someone who is deep in depression or anxiety? The answer is surprisingly simple. Tell them, “I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Just know that I’m here for you.” This is about letting them know that you care about them. And because you care about them, you are available for them. You are there for them. You are by their side. Because going through a difficult time is bad enough. Going through it alone is even worse.
So, if you know anyone going through a difficult time in their life right now. Someone who is suffering emotionally or even physically. Put your arm around them and tell them that you love them, that you care about them. Tell them that if there’s anything you can do to help, anything at all, that you’re here for them.